67 - Dating & Job Hunting

     Though they are different it's amazing how similar dating and job hunting
are.  In both you have certain skills you must highlight to make you the most
attractive candidate.  In both you usually have other people who are going for
the same thing that you want.  In both you must weigh the sacrifices you are
willing to make to make the situation work.
     Lately both can be achieved on line.  You present your resume/profile on a
reputable site and see who bites.  While you wait you are able to browse the
site and submit your resume/profile to the position you want.  You then check
another reputable site to see if there are any other available positions.
     Friends are always willing to help.  Friends can show you certain
jobs/people that you didn't know were available.  They are there to offer their
opinions on what works for you and what doesn't work in your initial
presentation.
     Unfortunately some friends don't tell you that they have done that
job/person before.  Some friends may have quit that job/person and are still
getting free benefits.  You may not get the job because your friend won't let
the position be posted as available.
     Worse they may still be working the job/person on the side.  They do this
not because they have a vested interest in a future with this job/person, they
just like the continued benefits.
     Many times I will apply for a job/relationship that I feel I am thoroughly
qualified for only to find out that they have hired some nitwit who is
unable to complete the tasks at hand.  The unqualified candidate fails multiple
times at various assignments but still pulls the benefits until they do
something so blatantly stupid that they must be dismissed.  Do I then reapply
knowing that I wasn't the primary choice?  I think not.
     What's worse is when you have a friend that has the perfect job but won't
let you apply for it because she/he feels you're a better friend than colleague.
They constantly talk about work and ask your opinion on how to improve things.
Even though you offer great suggestions that are then followed up on you aren't
even offered the consultants fee.
     Many times I find myself taking temp work just so the lean times aren't so
lean.  This is only good if both you and your temporary colleague/employee
realize that you have no intention on retiring with this company.  Sometimes the
temp work is the worst thing you could have done but it takes care of immediate
needs.  Other times the position is so good you wish you had signed on for this
job in the first place and you hang on in hopes they hire you full time.  Why is
it that the job/person you want the least is the one that calls you back the
most? It's amazingly similar how dating and job hunting are.

That Beautiful Black Man